• Mercedes Benstock

I want it all now!

Have you ever walked past Valentino, seen these fabulous pair of shoes you wanted and needed them. NOW? Ok, if not then clearly you don’t have an impulsive personality, unlike me who falls in love with every pair of shoes I ever try on. The true key to my heart is pink long stem roses, and shoes. First thing I would buy If I won the lottery? A pair of Charlotte Olympia shoes. Or three. Enough said.

But these days it’s the same, in the work world and sometimes the dating world. We have to go to pre k, elementary school, middle school, high school, college and then intern, to one day get a semi decent job leading to our (then long ago-“dream job”)

Graduating college and not getting hired (once away) is equivalent to getting slapped in the face. You went through 23 years of school for what? Not that I am 23 years old quite yet, or have graduated, but I see this as an ongoing problem.

As for dating it’s somewhat the same. We grow up having boyfriends/girlfriends, break up, make up, date a bit, break up again, and then here you are. Single. The problem is that people are afraid of stepping outside their usual comfort zone.

Some people hate being single, but I see it as more of an empowerment thing. If you want to date me and I’m interested, I’m interested. If not, I wont waste your time or mine. At the end of the day it’s all a big game, and some pick cheat codes to get around the board, while others move slowly. Each move means you could still loose at the end of the game. But when you lose, you get over it-move on and play again.

So back to work. If you’re young, smart, talented, and kicking complete ass in your office-you may (rightfully so) think you deserve a raise, or a bigger position in the company.

But to act to presumptuous in any situation is defiantly a turnoff. You need to be seen as dedicated and not a deserver. If you presume I deserve to “like you” because of every “amazing thing” right with you-your wrong. Just because other girls might bend over backwards for you-doesn’t mean I will.

David Burstein the author of fast future: how the Millennial generation is shaping our world, states that “The risk is that if they see you as entitled, they won’t take you seriously”. The word “Boss” doesn’t derive from nothing!

Strictly work #1) Learn from your supervisor and don’t be afraid to ask questions. “Watch how she handles a situation and mirror that behavior and you won’t come off as arrogant” says Anne Kreamer the author of Its Always personal: Navigating emotion in the new workplace. If she finds something important, then obviously you should also. Learn how to help, learn why its important, and do it. #2) Don’t try to change everything at once, even if you do have great ideas that you want to pursue. Remember that you may not be the only person to propose ideas weekly “You think you’re being helpful, but it may look like you’re saying you know better than your boss” says Alexandra Leit the author of Blind SPots: The 10 Business myths you Can’t afford to believe on your new path to success. Remember if the company was completely incompetent without you being there, then they wouldn’t still be around or be in business. They can live with or without you (just like men). The best way to contribute, is to ask for input early on in the process rather than ambush your boss at a big meeting “You’ll be treated better, and your idea may actually happen,” says Burstein. #3) Even if you’re doing work that you think you( or nobody) deserve’s to be doing, don’t sport a “I went to college for this?!” attitude. It’s not cool, nor pleasant. Nobody dreams of running around in snow being an intern, making copies, or entering data-but guess what? Somebody has to do it. “throw yourself into the things no one else wants to do, and no one can say you consider yourself too important” says Heather McGregor the author of Sharpen your heels: Mrs money pennys career advice for women.

#4) Find yourself a better boss-“Just as millennials need to be more sensitive to their employers, employers need to understand millennials better” says Burnstein. If your supervisor won’t work with you on your approach then you may want to look elsewhere or launch your own business.

Lucky enough I have had great bosses in the past, who have really looked out for me, taught me, and included me in serious meetings. I might have been an intern, but I was treated like an employee, and learnt/acted like an employee.